BDSM: What do you need for this form of sex?

December 3, 2020

Table of Contents

What is BDSM?
BDSM rules
Difference BDSM and SM
Necessities BDSM
How do you bring up the topic of BDSM with your boy/ girlfriend?

With 50 Shades of Gray, everyone now wants to be a Dakota with her own mister Gray by her side. The world seems to be coming out, and masse in the field of BDSM, and everyone turns out not to be well-behaved.

You would love to be in the stilettos of Dakota. The idea alone makes your abdomen itchy and your knees soft as an oyster. You secretly check the internet to get information: what do you need for BDSM? What are the rules of BDSM? What do you need for BDSM? What is the difference between SM and BDSM? How do you address the topic of BDSM with your partner?

What is BDSM?

The abbreviation BDSM stands for a combination of several abbreviations: Bondage and Discipline (BD), Dominance and Submission (DS) and Sadimn and Masochism (SM). BDSM is a sexual preference in which you impose certain sexual restrictions on each other, you stimulate each other's nerves, and the balance of power plays a significant role. BDSM, therefore, contains different aspects:

Bondage (tying each other up).
Discipline (certain forms of punishment).
The exercise of power or the "victim" role of a power game in which pain is caused or received.

BDSM rules

The most important thing about BDSM is that all participants like it equally. It would be best if you didn't do it because your partner wants it so badly. Fair agreements must be made between both parties. Who is the dominant and the submissive, how far can you go, what is the "stop sign," and what attributes do you use? Agree in advance on a particular word (or sign, in case you can't speak) that will serve as a stop sign if the submissive thinks it's going too far. Aftercare is also very important. All stimuli put the submissive in a kind of trance, where substances such as endorphins and serotonin are released, reach a peak and again run out.

Difference BDSM and SM

SM is part of BDSM. At SM, the focus is on Sadimn and Masochism. Bondage and power games do not play a role in this.

Necessities BDSM

You can extend the requirements for BDSM as wide as you want. You can furnish a whole "playroom" like mister Gray in Fifty Shades with a collar, St. Andrew's cross, rope, gag, but you can also keep it small in the bedroom with a few subtle attributes, a pair of handcuffs and a sweep. You can also make it as extreme as you want with a harmless vibrator and a strap-on dildo, or go more extreme with candle grease, butt plugs. You don't even have to dive into the sex shop because chances are you already have a thing or two at home, such as ice cubes, toothpicks, rope, needles, duct tape, candles, clothespins or a feather.

How do you bring up the topic of BDSM with your boy/ girlfriend?

It would be best if you leveled up on many fronts. Make sure your friend starts fantasizing about BDSM a little bit too. The term itself may sound intense, but of course, you don't need to name it so emphatically. For example, occasionally tickle him during sex. Or blindfold him with your hand. Watch how he reacts to it.

BDSM: What do you need for this form of sex?